People come to therapy for many reasons - sometimes, they have a specific goal in mind: they are having trouble meeting a deadline, they have a specific relationship (personal or professional) that needs attention; perhaps they want to stop self-harming, or need help with some life decision or event, such as the loss of a loved one. Often, people are unclear about what they want out of therapy: but they know they want to feel more happy or less anxious; they feel stuck, blocked or stifled, and want to live a more free, engaged and fulfilled life.
Whatever brings you to therapy, it is fine. It is your starting place and we will work from there. For many people, asking for help from a therapist can feel like a weakness. It might even evoke feelings of shame or failure. While people often find it easy to seek help in other aspects of life - with physical well-being, for example - they can also feel they should be able to deal with their emotional life by themselves. Therapy involves a degree of trust that doesn't always come easily, and it takes strength to do so. Therapy can be a process of self-discovery, leading to a revitalised sense of relationship to self and others. This in turn can lead to a new sense of meaning and satisfaction in life.
My role is to help you feel supported, understood, and acknowledged, with curiosity but without judgement, as the unique and multi-faceted person you are. This reminds me of some words of Shakespeare: for the eye sees not itself, but by reflection (Julius Caesar). We all have blind spots; we cannot see every one of our psychological nooks and crannies. Even if we want to sort ourselves out, it’s not always possible to get into those blind spots. In therapy, I pay very close attention to you and the way we relate to one another, This guides me in helping you discover and embrace all parts of yourself, even those that seem mysterious and beyond your control. Over time, you could develop new perspectives and a more comprehensive, effective narrative of your life. This is not only empowering, but sets the stage for feeling more free and engaged in life.
Here is a list of some of the issues that I work with:
depression, anxiety, stress and mood disorders, anger
emotional, physical and sexual abuse/trauma
dissociative disorders, diagnosed personality disorders
all forms of self-harm (eg. cutting, eating disorder, addiction, suicidality)
identity issues (eg cultural, gender, sexual)
low self esteem
relationship conflicts (personal or professional)
life transitions (for example: leaving home, international/expat moves, divorce, change of life, empty nest, change in career)
bereavement and loss
If something is troubling you that is not on this list, please feel free to get in touch. We can discuss if I can help you.
Kathryn Jackson, MA, PhD, RP phone: 647 922 6784 email: email@example.com